common things i hear at this stage are “it’s almost time!” “the baby’s ready!” “soon you will be a mom!” and it takes all my willpower not to shake my head furiously like a child in denial. i am increasingly anxious and on occasion, scared out of my mind. we have a childbirth class later in the week that will hopefully calm my nerves.
the third trimester has brought a sense of hyper-awareness. i pay close attention to his movements and with my skin issues i am realizing how much my body has changed. i walk slowly and quite often sophie impatiently pulls me home. the belly grows along with my waistline and legs. i feel self-conscious and innocent comments like “you’ve gotten big since the last time i saw you!” and “are you hungry?” sting in a way they didn’t before.
i remind myself that every day and week is different. yes, some weeks i’ve felt happy and glowing. other weeks i’ve felt tired and down. some days i’ve felt beautiful and other days anything but. all these emotions are part of being pregnant, being a mom, and being a human.
i know deep in my heart that none of this will matter once we see his tiny face and wrinkly hands. oh, i cannot wait to look at you, but be a good boy and keep on baking.
some of my favorite summertime fruits and vegetables are bite-size tomatoes, pretty pink watermelons, blueberries, and sweet corn. all together they’d make a strange salad, but luckily today’s recipe only uses two of them.
i call this side dish stoplight salad because it includes the colors red, yellow, and green. it’s an easy yet elegant salad that pairs well with anything from grilled eggplant or steak to fried chicken. plus you can assemble it in less than five minutes if you use thawed frozen corn!
- 1 pint of cherry tomatoes
- 4 ears of sweet corn, cleaned and lightly blanched
- 1/4 of a sweet or red onion, sliced
- 2 tablespoons of chopped basil
- 1/2 cup of feta cheese
- olive oil and balsamic vinegar
- kosher salt and pepper for seasoning
- substitute 3 cups of thawed frozen corn instead of fresh corn.
- blanche the ears of corn for 3-4 minutes in boiling water. allow them to cool completely before shaving the kernels off with a sharp knife.
- in a bowl, combine the corn, tomatoes, onion, and basil. add a splash of olive oil and balsamic for a quick dressing. season with salt and pepper.
- serve cold with crumbled feta on top.
michael and i had an “early” baby shower in may; friends and family typically fête the happy couple closer to their due date. our may shower allowed my coworkers to attend because teachers don’t always see each other in the summer (two words: it’s vacay). i felt weird asking people for presents so we created a basic wishlist (diapers, wipes, onesies, bottles, swaddles, etc.) and guests could choose from the list or share their own gifts.
we received many helpful and fun presents, some of which inspired my shopping picks for today. all of these items are under $30 at the nordstrom anniversary sale, and i think they would please any experienced or expecting mama out there. scoop them up soon because i may not be able to talk myself out of buying another cute blanket!
- stem baby cardigan: this cozy sweater would look great on a boy or girl. i like the oversized buttons and the “elf” style hood. on sale for $25.
- stem baby triangle blanket: oh my. this blanket would be perfect in our little boy’s camp-themed room. the orange, turquoise, and grey stand out as a cheerful yet gender neutral color combo. on sale for $30.
- tiny toms: toms shoes get even cuter as they get smaller. these crochet lace ones would be lovely on a little girl. on sale for $30.
- wooden porcupine: i worked at a children’s toy store in college, and we sold tons of wooden toys. they’re durable and families tend to use them for years and hand them down to younger siblings. on sale for $17.
- baby age blocks: it’s popular for moms to document their babies’ ages with stickers or patches. these wooden blocks are a cute alternative! on sale for $26.
collage by me. images via nordstrom.
this week has been a whirlwind. michael and i toured the hospital on sunday and we saw tiny twins in the nursery! the nurses put them in the same bed and they snuggled together. the sight of them was very heartwarming. we took a breastfeeding class on monday evening; michael was a good sport because he met me after work and the instructor didn’t dismiss us until 9:30. today i had a check-up. our little boy is very active with a strong heartbeat.
i’ve been scratching my shoulders and legs at night. my doctor said pregnant women tend to be generally itchy but the office will run a test to make sure it isn’t anything serious. the hot weather doesn’t help either; i feel like i am perpetually frozen from the air conditioning or sweaty from the outdoors. for some strange reason i’m into jeans and tees lately. they’re fine for the mornings but terrible for the afternoons!
have you seen little knitty things? it’s an etsy shop by melanie (of une vie géniale, she used to blog at idée géniale). i bought the baby a red bedford cap and a brown bear cap. she also makes pom pom and tassel garlands. if you’re a mama, mama-to-be, or cute stuff lover, check out her collection!
ahhh! seven more weeks to go! i’m feeling good this week. there are few things that several days of rest and homemade hot compresses can’t fix. on friday the french lost but i wasn’t sour for too long. michael built the crib and painted like a wonderful husband. i also ordered arrow decals for the baby’s room; i hope they look as good as i imagine!
in other baby news i’m sewing wall hangings for his room and figuring out where to store books and toys (wooden wall shelves, maybe). i hope that he grows up and loves his room because we’ve put our hearts in it! it’s slowly coming together, and i’ll share more soon.
we had dinner at arcade midtown kitchen awhile ago. the restaurant is home to a quirky zoltar machine similar to the one in the 1980’s movie, big. we didn’t visit for zoltar— the food was delicious— but as soon as we arrived home, i had to watch big. fast forward to sunday and i dreamt that we were at FAO schwarz and i could not find our baby. what a terrible dream! thanks a lot zoltar and tom hanks.
as a pregnant woman i often receive advice ranging from good to mediocre to—how can i say it politely— unsolicited. you are told what you should and shouldn’t eat, use, buy, do, etc. most people share advice in a friendly way, and i listen, discuss with my best friend (who’s expecting her second child), or ask my doctor. i still eat sushi and drink coffee. i just avoid the fish on the no-no list and add a ton of milk.
maybe i’m one of the lucky ones but no one has suggested what i should wear, thank goodness! i’ve learned that women’s bodies vary greatly in pregnancy; there is no default way of carrying your baby or dressing your bump. i’m 5’9” with a long torso and our baby boy is all in front. my personal style hasn’t changed at all besides having more elastic in my life.
here are some of my favorite items i’ve enjoyed wearing during this journey. you might like them, too, because only the jeans are “maternity”, believe it or not!
- clovella top: i bought the vibrant blouse on sale before i began to show. it still covers my bump perfectly. i like wearing it with skinny jeans and sandals.
- lush maxi dress: i picked up a few of these in different styles. they are super comfortable! the fabric is rayon, similar to my pricier rachel pally dresses.
- snapdragon top: this is another peplum blouse but in silk. i have the floral version from anthropologie and a zig-zag version from LM’s sample sale. they look great with jeans and skirts.
- maternity verdugo leggings: i’ll say it once and say it again: i love paige denim. they are absolutely the best kind of jeans. the maternity leggings have elastic at the sides to fit the bump.
- drawstring skirts: buy them two or three sizes bigger and they’ll last through your pregnancy.
- braided sightseer sandals: my brown boardwalk sandals broke and these replaced them. they’re comfy and cute.
what did you wear during your pregnancy?
collage by me. images via anthropologie, nordstrom, steven alan, matches, j.crew. and madewell.
hello! i meant to blog more often last week but i pulled a muscle in my leg and limped around for a few days. the doctor instructed me to “take it easy” and so i did. sophie and i watched the world cup matches, read real simple, and organized materials for my substitute teacher. i also managed to snag two things from the lauren moffatt online sample sale!
in my last update i mentioned the baby had hiccups; i can feel his hiccups once or twice a day now. i’m a little alarmed that he moves around constantly; i think he recently discovered how to roll. his kicks hurt occasionally, but he’s been a good boy (i.e. i’m not yelping in the grocery store yet).
the other day i thought about my summer wardrobe and i missed wearing shorts. it’s not too late to buy a pair or two. i find myself craving things i couldn’t possibly wear, too, like high-waisted denim skirts (i want this one) or shift dresses (hard to pull off with a growing bump).
are you doing anything fun for fourth of july? i’ll be rooting for france, and michael will side with germany. we’ll probably build a crib and cook hot dogs. enjoy the holiday and and wear your american best. our team played so hard today; you’re my MVP tim howard!
whew! i can cross another week off our calendar. week 31 had its ups and downs. weepy moments occurred a couple of times during this journey but i was all out of sorts this week. i worried about a lot of random things like going into labor at home to being a good mom to living away from our families to typing up eight weeks of lesson plans. and then i worried more because i was worrying and ended up feeling more anxious.
if i’ve learned anything over the last seven months, it’s that everything i feel or experience isn’t unusual. sometimes pregnant women are super happy and other times you know better than to mess with one. sometimes we might cry over spilt popcorn, or like me yesterday, not being able to paint my toenails.
in other news, we’re planning to use cloth diapers so if you have any brands or advice to share, please do! we will use pampers when he is born and later on when he goes to daycare (unless his center allows the cloth kind). i never thought i would write about diapers on the blog but hey, there’s a first time for everything!